NO IS NOT A PROBLEM

There is a general conception or misconception that people who say "NO" often are probably mean people or bad vibes. Telling a person "NO" is sometimes tagged as not wanting the best for that person or turning the person down in a bid to hurt the person making it seem like you don’t care, and when you say "NO" to certain people on certain occasions they automatically just cancel you out of their lives. Is this a fair judgement though?

Surely, when most of us ask certain questions beneficial to us or ask for favours we would definitely love to hear a "YES" response and in most cases getting a "NO" can really dampen the spirit and mess your mood up, especially when you feel getting a "YES" response would have been quite easier for both parties but do we sometimes put into consideration what it actually costs to give a"YES" and if it is actually worth it to the other party? Also does getting a "NO" response mean the other person is really bad vibes?

Sometimes people say "NO" because they fear saying "Yes" in that moment may lead to consequences they may not be very comfortable with, not that they would not want help but they would rather do it on their own terms when and if they are comfortable with it. For some people saying yes to a request is based on what is in for them as well, no matter how little they want to be sure their "Yes" is not totally free of charge to reduce chances of being taken for granted and some people just say "No" because they really cannot afford to say yes at the moment even though their reasons may not be explainable or personal but their reasons are usually best understood by them alone.

However, there also are certain people who are pretty different sort of like the opposite. These people have a hard time saying "No" to almost everyone and everything and sometimes they consider it as a weakness. Sometimes it is not convenient for them to say "Yes" but once they get a request it automatically feels like an obligation and sometimes a commitment and they want to give it as much as they can. This does not however guarantee that they will for sure grant the request and unfortunately in most cases failure to be able to grant that request often becomes a burden for them and they just wish they had actually said "No"from the onset.

Being a "No" or a "Yes" person is not a bad thing, although I think it is only fair that if are giving a "No" response you can add some reasons so you do not create bad blood but then there are some cases you may not want to disclose your reasons and that is okay too. Meanwhile if you are a "Yes" person, that is also okay but it is still advisable to know when to say "No" and this starts with knowing that saying "No" does not make you a bad person plus you can always change your mind if you later find out that the request is something you can grant, I guess that is much better than giving an uncomfortable "Yes" and putting yourself in a somewhat compromising situation.

Be True to Yourself!!