The world is going through a lot in recent times and amidst all that is happening it is understandable that anyone would want to find someone to put blame on for certain occurrences. However, we should not fail to understand that whenever there is an action or inaction it is usually as a result of more than one causes, and the effects in most cases are usually felt by more people than we imagine.
Looking for someone to blame or passing blame around does not necessarily solve any problems unless the person we are putting a blame on actually has a solution to the problems, but then why do people still love to share blames?. For some, it makes them feel better about themselves,while for some it makes them feel like they are in good light of the situation and clean of all faults when they pass on blame to others and for some it is just an act of not wanting to take responsibility for anything or accept that they might as well have their own shortcomings.
Whilst passing blames might make some people feel better about themselves, it is important to also put into consideration the person who the blame is being passed on to. A lot of times some people are compelled to take blames for actions they have no control over and this is definitely not a good feeling. Some people also get a sense on guilt or worthlessness when all blames are placed on them and in some cases some people even tend to lose themselves and get more confused by the situation to the point of not knowing what action is best to take next because they are probably quite overwhelmed by all accusing fingers being pointed at them.
I have seen cases where people put blame on other people due to them being in an emotional state they are trying to get a grip of and the person who the blame is passed on just accepts the blame because he/she doesnt want to hurt the blamer or wants to avoid starting an argument.
Irrespective of the situation, it is important to always remember that no one is perfect or above mistakes, and in most cases when a rather unfortunate occurrence happens, it is not as a result of one person's actions or inactions only. If we look further we will see that in some cases, there is actually no need to find someone to pin the blame on because it is actually nobody's fault, so rather than just throw blames around ,focus on the situation and address it.
Although there are cases where some persons action or inaction may have been the cause of an unfortunate incident, there are chances that the person already knows, or we could just point out the persons fault especially when it is an unintentional act, but then hammering on it and trying get spiteful and hurt the person's feelings might actually only worsen the situation rather than do it any good.
Personally I like to evaluate a situation and see how it can be avoided next time and also learn from it and use it to admonish others from falling into the same situation rather than find someone to pin down and blame all the time.
I would like to hear your views on the discussion as well so kindly leave a comment below.
Cheers and have a great weekend.
Adebimpe this topic is a very important one as it occurs in most homes, family and society. The simple fact is that putting blames on other will actually not bring up any development in any society... It makes it worse when you pass blame just to make the other party sorrowful or make them feel not to have a sense of belonging in the circle causes hatred and most times if not noticed and solved it transcend this hatred attitude from one end to another.
ReplyDelete...now if this other party tends to wave it off it eventually causes them not to be secured in the presence of such person and then want to at all times do away with such person passing blames.
The simple fact is passing blames generally emanate hatreds among the circle...
Thanks Adebimpe love you
Thank You very much for this tip Sir, It sure can cause some hatred too.
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